Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: Found out in my spouses WhatsApp messages
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Devastated. Heartbroken. Stupid. Lesser than. Ugly. Fool. Ashamed
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?:Abnormal sleeping patterns. Generally negative outlook
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Trying to get fit. Trying to pray. Too ashamed to share with anyone
What are your next steps?: I don’t know. I just need help
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Sadness, Afraid, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed, Cornered/Forced
What emotions are missing from the list?: Can’t say
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Don’t have much advice to give. Things seem to improve, but don’t think this can happen independently
What else would you like to share?: