Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A while ago - 6-12 months
How did you learn about it?: Confronted spouse about it. Had a Dream about it. Was right.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.:Totally Pissed. Not for me but about our 9 year old son.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: None
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I got a lot of Stinking Thinking. Want to hurt them both coz my son is suffering but doesn’t know.
What are your next steps?: Telling our son that he’s Adopted and that we are moving out. First I’m trying to get him some Therapy before I tell him.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Anger, Empowered, Betrayed, Relieved
What emotions are missing from the list?: Great full.
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Take care of yourself and your children.
What else would you like to share?: Wanted to leave years ago but was told if I left that him or I would be raising our son.