Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 3 - 5 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: Read her text messages she thought she deleted. She had been lying for over a month
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.:Traumatized,betrayed,hurt,humiliated, blamed myself,anxious
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Hard to sleep,work and be around people
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?:Playing games w friends and it helps for the moment but when I stop playing I think about it again
What are your next steps?: Counseling
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Afraid, Alone, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?:
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Seek help
What else would you like to share?: My girlfriend had been cheating on me with her manager who is almost twice her age. I found out in her text messages. She said she would’ve continued if I didn’t find out. We have a son together. The manager has a wife and 3 kids. Her first emotion wasn’t remorse it was fear if people finding out . I still think she justifies what she did because of the lack of affection I gave her she says. Feeling like I wasn’t there for her when she needed me