Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: I was on his phone and saw some messages. I read through the whole thread of them. My mind was in such a blur that I couldn't even tell you when it started or how. I only discovered these 2 days ago and even now I couldn't tell you exactly what was said, I can only remember certain words or a couple of specific texts
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I was so so angry. Screaming, shouting, throwing things. The came the tears and the dread...is my marriage over? What do I tell the kids? Why am I not enough?
Then the hate...who is she? Why her? What does she have that I don't
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Cant sleep or eat. Just keep riding the wave of emotions
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I'm just letting it all out. If I need to cry I do, if I need to shout I do (not at anyone, I just shout out)
What are your next steps?: We want us to work. He has promised me it was not a physical affair, it was more emotional than anything else. It's hard as it's only bee a couple of days so I feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel but I don't want this to be it
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Afraid, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible
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What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Regardless of how others may have dealt with it or how your friends/family say they would deal with it you have to do what is best for you. This is your life.
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