Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: I Suspected when he started working late and was on the phone more than usual. He cheated before so when I saw what seemed familiar I knew and tracked his phone.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I feel ashamed for forgiving him previously. I feel like I should have left when I was stronger financially to do so.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: No sleep, no appetite I feel like none of that matters.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I have 2 teenage daughters, I try to remain strong for them. They don’t know what’s happening. It’s crushing me inside to pretend that all is normal. We went counseling several times it didn’t help.
What are your next steps?: I’ve previously done lots of homework on divorce and it wasn’t an answer for me and the kids, at the moment I just feel numb.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Sadness, Afraid, Betrayed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Denial about the signs I previously saw.
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: If someone repeatedly cheats there’s a very slim chance that he/she will stop.
What else would you like to share?: When you have a chance to walk away and change your life and start afresh then do that before it’s too late. It gets complicated whenkids are old.