Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 3 - 5 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: Found a video of him receiving oral sex from his ex mother in law who has additional learning needs.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Sick to the stomach.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I'm up at 2am writing this, nearly 19 months on.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?:Anridepressanrs, counselling, hypnotherapy.
What are your next steps?: Hoping time will heal. Trying to access more counselling.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Betrayed, Devalued
What emotions are missing from the list?: Feeling stupid, I would never have guessed.
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Run.
What else would you like to share?: If it wasn't for my kids loving him so much and the physical upheaval, id be gone.