Your Age: 21-30
Length of Relationship : 1 - 2 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A while ago - 6-12 months
How did you learn about it?: I had suspicions around a girl he recently got back in contact with due to training to be a teacher. I told him about them and he said I was "making a mountain out of a mole hill" I looked on his laptop one night and saw all the explicit messages dating back months
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I felt heartbroken, worthless, like a complete mug. We are still trying to work on things but I think I can't trust him. He has a lot of "close" female friends through work or his training who he talks to constantly. I don't know how to feel sometimes. Some days I don't think about and other days I feel like it's all I can think about and feel betrayed all over again. I've started having nightmares about it. What hurts the most is the lies he told and how he mad me think I was going crazy.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I didn't eat and I still have trouble sleeping.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I try to distract myself when I start thinking about what happened.
What are your next steps?: Try and work through it. He knows what he did was wrong and is trying to do his best to show me it won't happen again but I'm still trying to process how I'm feeling about the situation
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed, Sadness, Anger, Alone
What emotions are missing from the list?: Anxiety
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Follow your gut. If you feel something isn't right then your probably right