Your Age: 21-30
Length of Relationship : 6 - 10 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A while ago - 6-12 months
How did you learn about it?: I learned about it a year later. My partner got drunk and went into self-destruct mode and intentionally spewed things out to hurt me. Many untrue and true things. One truth being that he cheated on me on our 5th year anniversary.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I am so incredibly hurt, angry, and jealous. I am filled with hate. Hate towards him, her, and myself.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I am always drained. I do not want to eat.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I started therapy. Not sure if it’s working yet. I’ve only had 1 session.
What are your next steps?: More self therapy. Couples therapy and setting my boundaries with him.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Jealous
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Whichever decision you make, is okay. Your feelings and emotions are valid. Get to therapy at least for yourself.
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