Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A little while ago - 3-6 months
How did you learn about it?: The other women sent me a letter as she wanted him full time, then wanted to share him as i said no. She became obsessed and stalked me. Making it worse, kept telling me how broken she was.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I was in absolute shock. Its changed everything, i doubt the past, present and future. I hate how i have to make decisions im forced to make. Its hard seeing my children so broken.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Can't sleep, didn't eat really for weeks, now comfort eat.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: It varies every second, i wish i could feel nothing at all. I feel like i never mattered, so struggling to keep going. Nothing helps
What are your next steps?: We have kids,financial ties ets so i have to try. He did it before when we were 7 years together, we're 15 years in now.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Cornered/Forced
What emotions are missing from the list?: Happyness because thats gone
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: If you can leave, do it. Follow your own mind.
What else would you like to share?: That i feel im living a nightmare loop.