Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A little while ago - 3-6 months
How did you learn about it?: She left me,and when confronted admitted to seeing someone else.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.:Broken,ashamed,self blame,abused,betrayed.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Lost 10 kg in first 4 weeks eating less and always tired but not getting rest
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?:Religion,faith. Helps alot but i struggle to focus at work.
What are your next steps?: Keep praying and building my faith.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: None
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Try to stay strong and take it one day at a time.
What else would you like to share?: Have 3 kids who she left behind with me so thus gives me some comfort but also makes it difficult because i have to cope with my emotions and still be strong for them.