Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: In the last few months - less than 90 days (3 months)
How did you learn about it?: Text msg to the kids cricket coach that was suspicious.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Now = feel i have addressed route causes and am taking steps to move fwd.
Then = my world collapsed. I became numb.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Lost 14kgs in a month, kept waling up during the night.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Differentiating btwn rational and irrational thoughts.
Keeping positive and realizing that a marriage takes work
Yes
What are your next steps?: Learning to forgive her; being the best i can be for myself, my wife and family
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Replaced, Betrayed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Disconnected
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Determine if she wants you or not? If not dont be scared to leave.
What else would you like to share?: In a relationship it always takes 2 to tango. If you make time and put im effort to be good to each other; you will find more reward than sneaking around and deceiving your partner….