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Your Age: 31-40

Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: In the last few months - less than 90 days (3 months)

How did you learn about it?: Found Text message and video footage, this led me to suspect something then I confronted her and she came clean

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: When I found out I felt immense paid and numbness all in one. Now I feel sad every now and then but also half the man I used to be

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: To start with I didn't eat at all and slept probably 2 or 3 hours a week they have somewhat improved since

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: We have enrolled in couples counselling and are working through it. I also have individual counselling

What are your next steps?: To continue working at our relationship

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible

What emotions are missing from the list?: Inferior, insecure

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Talk honestly and openly. And gather all the facts

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