Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: In the last few months - less than 90 days (3 months)
How did you learn about it?: It is an ongoing issue. I usually find out through his phone.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I feel lost and mostly angry at myself for giving chances after chances. I am scared too because I know I need to leave but it is scary with three kids.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: No, a little down but nothing too drastic.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I am not really coping anymore. I am just numb to the pain. I have accepted the fact that you cannot make anyone change for you.
What are your next steps?: Probably leave and move on. I should have done that years ago.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Anger, Sadness, Afraid, Strong, Voiceless, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed, Cornered/Forced
What emotions are missing from the list?: Mocked, dirty
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Don’t give second chances. If they did it once, they will do it again
What else would you like to share?: As a woman it is important that you have some financial stability so it makes it easier to move on in situations like this.