Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: He confessed as he could not live with the guilt any longer
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Devastated. Trying to be understanding but utterly confused and don’t know how to move forward.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Yes, very poor sleep, loss of appetite, struggling with concentration
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Writing things down. Not sure how much it’s helping
What are your next steps?: We have booked relationship counselling
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Fear of rejection
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Do what feels right for you
What else would you like to share?: That although he is that one that had an affair, I know I am not blameless in our relationship breaking down - we both became complacent and neglectful of each other’s needs but failed to communicate this to each other.