Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A while ago - 6-12 months
How did you learn about it?: One day, out of the blue, he said he wanted a divorce. I started taking note of late night calls etc.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I was fine after 3 to 4 months, but old feelings have started again - I start to panic easily.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I couldn't eat for the first 2 or so month, lost a lot of weight I did not need to lose. I am back to normal again howrver.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I prayed a lot. Wrote everything down in a journal. Moved out of the house.
What are your next steps?: He repented and asked for forgiveness. We are slowly picking up the pieces.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Strong, Betrayed
What emotions are missing from the list?: A feeling of going into survival mode. You don't 'live' at that point, you only survive.
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Don't take revenge. I had many oppurtunities but decided to keep my dignity and honour. People saw and respected it. Give over to God, you will find peace again. And at that moment your life can change for the better.
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