Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: Passive-aggressive behavior.
Avoiding alone time and intimacy.
Leaving the room to text a message.
Sleeping with his phone.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Betrayed.
Angry.
Worthless.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: The betrayal had a profound effect on me..
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Holistic therapy helped me with the pain.
What are your next steps?: To heal of course but it is difficult while living with with someone you no longer trust or believe in.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Sadness, Alone, Betrayed, Devalued, Cornered/Forced
What emotions are missing from the list?: Disillusionment
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: It is not your fault. Loving someone is not easy, otherwise, we would be happy and content with our partners all the time and for the rest of our lives. Let go of those persons if they are not willing to heal and grow with you. Let go of the past when they do.
What else would you like to share?: I am stronger and more sure of myself today, but the scars ache sometimes. I guess it always will.