Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A while ago - 6-12 months
How did you learn about it?: I felt something off and checked his phone that he was very protective of in the middle of the night. He woke up frantic it was missing and demanded it back. I asked why and he confessed to the affair.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I felt my world had ended. I had full trust in him and defended him to those who said he was traveling a lot and pulling away.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I wake up at 3, 4, and 5 regularly now. I’ve lost my appetite again.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Books, online research, therapy…I’m stuck still in shock this happened to us and anger for the woman I feel seduced him.
What are your next steps?: Hoping to restart therapy.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible
What emotions are missing from the list?: Hopeless
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: They are not alone and this is a terrible thing done to them.
What else would you like to share?: I don’t know how to move on. He made so many callous and thoughtless decisions. But I blame her because she invited him over and did not have boundaries among friendships with married men.