Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: In the last few months - less than 90 days (3 months)
How did you learn about it?: From a text.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Validation that something was going on. Anger. Betrayal. Worry for my future. My kids. Jealousy.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Not eating much - no appetite. Fall asleep but can’t stay asleep.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Therapy. Lots of therapy. Friends.
What are your next steps?: This. More therapy. Telling family.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Betrayed, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Validation — i knew something was off. Disgust.
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Hold on to those you love and trust. They will support you.
What else would you like to share?: Thank you for creating this space.