Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: Received a message from the "girlfriend"
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I literally don't know how I'm feeling, how I must feel or what I should do. I feel shattered, broken and deeply hurt. I feel like I have a void in me that I do not know how to close.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I have no appetite. I am awake most part of the night.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I spoke to my God-sister. It felt better after speaking to someone who's had a similar experience
What are your next steps?: I don't know. Initial thought was this is over, I'm done. I guess for me, it will most certainly be how "he carries himself" going forward. His willingness and commitment to wanting to save our marriage. He will be the determining factor for my next step.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible
What emotions are missing from the list?: Violated. Disgraced.
What advice would you give to others in this situation?:Perhaps after figuring out my action plan, that's when I could best advise someone else. Right now, I'm just blank.
What else would you like to share?: When does it feel better? When does this crushing feeling end? When do I get to laugh again? When do I heal? When do I feel at peace again? When?