Your Age: 21-30
Length of Relationship : 6 - 10 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A little while ago - 3-6 months
How did you learn about it?: Discovered it through her texts. She was planning a birthday trip on her birthday because my days off wouldn’t be approved as much.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Disappointed.
Depressed.
Sad.
Lack of concentration and focus.
Mixed feelings with her
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I stopped eating. I have trouble sleeping. Anxiety, distractions.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Reading. Talking to people, somehow communicating more with my spouse.
What are your next steps?: Either reconciling or divorce. I need her to be truly remorseful she needs to apologize. I moved away from her. I followed distance from her. It feels like there’s progress but she continues to “talk” to her guy because they’re “friends”. She doesn’t see the price that such friendship brought to OUR lives.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Sadness, Alone, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued
What emotions are missing from the list?:None
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Do what’s best for you and yourself only in this situation
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