Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 3 - 5 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: In the last few months - less than 90 days (3 months)
How did you learn about it?: I saw one of the women calling his phone
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Confused. I can't imagine staying with a liar and a cheater, but I also do not want to give up the life we have built. I have been a shell of myself. I feel like I am living with a stranger, like I am mourning a person who no longer exists
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I am sleeping more, my work is affected by my mood. I have been much less motivated to do things I normally do.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: We have begun therapy together but I am struggling to accept that I am willing to work on our relationship. It makes me feel weak and dependent.
What are your next steps?: I have no idea
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed, Cornered/Forced
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