Your Age: 21-30
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: I had a gut feeling and could not go to sleep. I could tell our dynamics in our relationship had changed recently and felt like something was up. So I looked through his phone, found that his best friend on Snapchat was a girl he worked with and then I woke up and questioned him about it.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: An immense amount of pain, betrayal, anger, hurt, and disgust. Still feeling the same but now more lost then ever. Feeling like I am currently in limbo and don’t know where to go from here or what to do.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Eating and sleeping have definitely changed
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Talking to a close friend. I’m not sure it is.
What are your next steps?: Trying to figure out if we’re going to stay together and work through this or if we can even get over this.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?:Disgust and lost
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: I try to stay calm even when you’re upset and get all of or whatever information you need to move on.
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