Title: Fooled for 32 years
Your Story: I was just 20 when I met my husband. Tim seemed too good to be true. He was intelligent, handsome, great company and was adored by everyone. I fell in love quickly and we married in 1992. Life was kind to us. We both had great jobs, were blessed with two beautiful children, afforded beautiful homes, holidays and had an interesting social life. I was so very happy and loved/ respected my husband beyond measure. On 12th June 2019 that beautiful life ended. I received a text from a woman telling me that she was having an affair with my husband and that it was serious. She also informed me that she was not his first affair. She shared with me all the unkind things he had said about me. I think she wanted me to kick him out. When it became clear that she was not his future and that we would be trying to mend our marriage, she sent their 'sexts' to me and my children. She also phoned his boss and sent me further messages and evidence in the post. I had to involve the police as the harassment was too much. Over the next few weeks I discovered that Tim had in the past behaved inappropriately with some of our friends but sadly they had decided not to share this with me until now. They are no longer my friends. I asked Tim for the truth...all of it. He grabbed a pen and scribbled a list on a scrap of paper. Its was a list of the women he had slept with and the dates of his encounters....one in 1994 when I was pregnant, another in 1997 when our little girl was just two. He often snogged women in nightclubs and on hockey tours but didn't have extra marital sex again until 2017 shortly before we celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. 3 years post D-day I am suffering from ptsd. I never suspected that my husband was a liar and a cheat. I thought he was truly wonderful. He has always told me every day that he loves me and I couldn't have loved him more. You will all be asking why I stayed. I ask myself why I stayed. I guess Tim always made me feel so loved and adored in a way that my parents never did. I am still processing the knowledge that Tim is not the man I thought he was.