two hundred thirty five (235)

Your Age: 51 +

Length of Relationship : 21 years or more

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago

How did you learn about it?: Through my youngest children. They found all the evidence on the phone and the laptop given to them during the Covid 19 incident

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Hurt, angry and in despair. Betrayed. I stopped trusting

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I have insomnia, no appetite

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Sleeping pills and anxiety pills. Have started going to see the therapist and the psychiatrist

What are your next steps?: Divorce

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Anger, Sadness, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed

What emotions are missing from the list?:None

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: To be strong enough to accept things that we can never change

What else would you like to share?: There is life after the betrayal . I may be hard to deal with this issue but we need to get help in order to overcome this problem, especially if you have children that depend upon you.