Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: I found phone records showing very frequent phone calls to this one number (before he died). Plus after he died, I found more evidence on his phone (text messages, explicit videos of his infidelity) confirming everything.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Pain, hurt and anger. A lot of anger
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Not eating or sleeping that well
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Talking to friends and family. I even talk to him to express my anger.
What are your next steps?: I really don’t know
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Betrayed
What emotions are missing from the list?:
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Leave the relationship. It’s not worth it. Love yourself enough to walk away. I was in the process of divorcing him but he passed away before I could
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