Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: In the last few months - less than 90 days (3 months)
How did you learn about it?: Found voicemails to another woman on the computer
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: When I found out, I think I already something was going on. Then of course I was an open wound, raw and hurt.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: At first I didn’t eat or sleep. I was a total wreck. I am doing better.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Friends, looking for a therapist, reading a lot about betrayal, relationships and communication, which we never seem to be able to do for 34 years.
What are your next steps?: Process of divorce. I feel right now I am just floating. No future, no plans. Scared, alone, floating.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Strong, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed, Cornered/Forced
What emotions are missing from the list?:
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Seek help, find someone to talk to. You are not crazy, you are not alone.
What else would you like to share?: Breathe. Stay still and breathe.