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Your Age: 51 +

Length of Relationship : 21 years or more

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago

How did you learn about it?: Initially in 2009 from the women he had slept with

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Crushed

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: No appetite racing thoughts

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Stay busy..hard time coping

What are your next steps?: Seperation

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed

What emotions are missing from the list?:

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Leave right away

What else would you like to share?: Old infidelity that was discovered 17 years after the fact,2009 Complete truth never told..minimized it half truth told on Dec 2021after more evidence found to prove it was deeper than was admitted to.