Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A little while ago - 3-6 months
How did you learn about it?: Gut feeling. Looked at phone records and he was talking to someone for hours after I went to bed. Had GPS on his truck and he was not honest on where he was. Found his credit card bill with hotel charge.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Devastated then and still now. Some days better than others. Still together, he admitted to this but no sex involved. I only believe that because he has a ED issue. But if he didn't have the ED problem he certainly would of went through with it. She is married and they are in an open relationship.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Eating has been hard, sleeping is not great either.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Talking with a friend. Support group on line
What are your next steps?: Trying to work through it with him. We have talked but he doesn't want me to keep bringing it up. I have triggers and I don't always approach the situation with him well, I feel out of control a lot.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Heartbroken
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: I don't know
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