Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A while ago - 6-12 months
How did you learn about it?: Text messages on his Apple Watch
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I feel lost…alone…I feel like I’m dying and there is only one person with the cure. My husband, my other half, my best friend could fix everything, but he won’t. Can’t? He may be incapable, but I’m starting to think I’m incapable of leaving him. I hate him so much for this.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Everything has changed. It’s like that life died and I have to learn how to live a different way, The route and ending he chose for me. The route of excruciating pain…emotionally killing my physical being.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I research and research and try and get my husband to do the same so he can help guide us in the corrrwct direction. He repeatedly says “Why? It doesn’t matter what I do. You’re just gonna keep bringing it up and bringing it up. It’s all your communication problems with everyone in your life. You are rhe provlem!”
In other words…no; it is not working.
What are your next steps?: I have no idea:
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed, Cornered/Forced
What emotions are missing from the list?: Devastation. Pain.
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: To the betrayed: I’m so very sorry for how you feel now and/or how you’re going to be feeling soon. Don’t assume the truth is being told to you now! Chances are; it’s not, completely!
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