Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: She got home from a work Christmas party and she was showing me something on her phone when a text notification popped up from a number I didn’t know and I saw it and questioned who it was from and when she didn’t answer I grabbed the phone and saw enough to figure out what was going on.. before I could read all the texts she managed to lock the screen. I think it’s a co-worker but she denied that.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I feel betrayed , stupid, lost, alone, and unlovable.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I couldn’t sleep at all last night, I have no drive to do anything but mope around and ask why me?
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Weed. A little.
What are your next steps?: Idk.. Ik I have to move out ..I will probably try to go stay with my brother .
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Cornered/Forced
What emotions are missing from the list?: Numb
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: I have no advice ..I need advice myself
What else would you like to share?: After I found out she still wouldn’t let me see the texts between them.