Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: In the last few months - less than 90 days (3 months)
How did you learn about it?: Saw a text come to her phone from a client … was how much he missed her. Looked into text string and went numb. I confronted her and after a few minutes of denial, admitted to it all.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Numb, gutted, hurt beyond words, embarrassed
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I don’t sleep very well… first thing and last thing I think about each day
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: In counseling… have also confided in one friend
What are your next steps?: Continue counseling together, trying to work through
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
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What advice would you give to others in this situation?:
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