Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 3 - 5 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: He told me, it was a friend of his of 15 years, they got close whilst watching a movie one night when I was away for work. He tells me it was just a kiss. But he only admitted it because he felt forced to do so as we were currently getting a mortgage together and the final letter and signatures were about to be posted.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Like my heart has been ripped out. Ultimate pain and grief, sadness, betrayal, upset, sick, angry, in denial, lost.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I'm barely eating, and only sleeping because the crying is exhausting
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I tried to talk to friends but it's not really helping me find any answers. I text the other woman (his friend), she blocked me. I started self harming again. Nothing makes the pain easier...
What are your next steps?: I have to decide whether to walk away and have it change all my house and work related plans, or whether to try and forgive him and work through it... Any advice?
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed
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What advice would you give to others in this situation?: It's not your fault
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