Your Age: 21-30
Length of Relationship : Less than 1 year
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: He told me by video call whilst I was away to see my family for a couple of days that he got drunk and slept with a coworker. Turned out he lied and had actually slept with her multiple times.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I felt so stupid and naive. I knew we were working on things but we'd had sex the day before I left...
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I wasn't eating or sleeping right for over a week and then caught covid, probably due to my immune system being lowered due to the stress.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Weekly therapy sessions. Blocked him after he revealed about the multiple cheating occasions. It's a bit better but still feel a lot of blame for somehow not being enough.
What are your next steps?: Working on myself and staying busy with work and friends. He's no longer in my life but I miss him most days.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Sadness, Alone, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Worthless
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: You will always be enough. They did not value what they had.
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