Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: I came across explicit email exchanges between my husband and another woman
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I'm more angry than hurt now, I can't seem to shake the anger off.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Still have restless nights, the first year was awful, illness and weight loss.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Just self control really, but it's the triggers that set me off, so many of them.
What are your next steps?: I really don't know, I'm 64 now, been with this man for over 40 yrs. I'm financially dependent on him, I was mostly a stay at home Mum, bringing up our three children.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Feeling humiliated and second best
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: I haven't figured out what I should do, so I'm not ready to give advice.
What else would you like to share?: I found out about my husbands affair 8 months after our beloved youngest son died, he was only 23, my heart was already broken.