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Your Age: 41-50

Length of Relationship : 1 - 2 years

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago

How did you learn about it?: I knew something was up when he did not come home but it was not until I talked to a mutual friend that I found out he moved in with her three days after he left me. I was three months pregnant with our son and I received my engagement ring that we had just picked out while he was living with another woman. He left her and came home to me but I could never get over the pain and betrayal.

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I pushed him away by always being suspicious and now he has left me for another girl this one is a little older than the last one. He has been gone about a week now.

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I can’t eat and I can’t sleep either

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I am writing him letters
I guess it helps me not send him ten thousand text messages driving him even further away than he already is

What are your next steps?: I set up a counseling session for this morning

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed, Cornered/Forced

What emotions are missing from the list?: Strong empowered and relieved

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: I really don’t know

What else would you like to share?: I am so lost our son is only nine months old.