Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 3 - 5 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: She posted a picture of them together on Facebook
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Numb. Betrayed. Anxious. Angry. Hurt
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: My anxiety is causing several physical problems. I can't sleep without medication and my stomach is upset constantly.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: My work schedule is long busy hours so right now I am focusing on productivity. I have talked to several friends about it.
What are your next steps?: Deciding whether to stay or leave. I think I need to seek therapy.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?:
What advice would you give to others in this situation?:
What else would you like to share?: The cheating isn't what bothers me the most...it is the lying and deception. Once back from deployment (where he cheated), he introduced me her the same day I met his family for the first time at a BBQ. He also took a 4 day trip to Chicago to visit her and "end" it. His story has gaps in it and he gets upset when I ask him questions about it so I don't know how to move forward.