Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: By accident. I noticed a longer than usual phone call on my husband's phone. It was with a female friend of mine or so I thought.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Now, I am usually ok with an occasional day of depression and sadness. When I found out, I felt broken. devastated, horrified, lost and very stupid.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: At first, I did little eating or sleeping. But now, I am doing better.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Journaling, counseling and prayer. This combo has worked well.
What are your next steps?: To improve myself for me, with the hopes I will believe I am worthy of love.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Lost
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Get counseling as soon as possible.
What else would you like to share?: God is the ultimate healer.