Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 6 - 10 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: I build the phantasy of a threesome. I love my wife. I met a girl, fell in love with her and dreamed our life all together. My wife disagreed absolutelly. I took an year to dismount that phantasy and break up with my darling. Again, I've taken another year to get strong enough to tell my wife what happened.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Truths told, I feel lighter altough full of guilty
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: None
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Psycotherapy
What are your next steps?: Waiting for my wife to cope with all that happened
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Sadness, Afraid, Shame/Ashamed, Relieved
What emotions are missing from the list?: Guilt and deliverance
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Truth. Don't hide the case. Tell your partner. Face consequences
What else would you like to share?: It hasn't ended yet, since my wife did not made up her mind about poor us...