Your Age: 21-30
Length of Relationship : 1 - 2 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A while ago - 6-12 months
How did you learn about it?: I confronted him after I caught him lying about a detail. Then all the lies started to fall. He progressively admitted having an affair with his ex girlfriend (he saw her a few times and they talked "inappropriately"). I confronted him a few times and he always admitted something new that he "was not able" to recognise before. I tried to forgive him (he insisted sooo much) but our relationship turned into a living hell, so I recently decided to break up.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Exhausted, angry, sad, frustrated, betrayed, like I've lost my time and energy trying to give the best to someone that did not deserve it.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Not really
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Dating and being intimate with someone new. Helps to move on and stop thinking all the time about the affair and how horrible the relationship was.
What are your next steps?: See above.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Anger, Sadness, Strong, Empowered, Betrayed, Devalued
What emotions are missing from the list?: n/a
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: If it's to hard to forgive just move on. I know it may be hard depending on the situation (having children, living together) but it's just better to end toxic relationships that hurt.
What else would you like to share?: I know that some of the emotions I listed above are contradictory, it was a process since I learned about the affair and I decided to move on.