Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : Less than 1 year
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: Found phone records that showed where he was.
He told me he was at a gun class and he wasn’t there.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Heart broken and hurt. We had just celebrated if I can call it that our 40 th anniversary. I was devastated
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Not eating and not sleeping much.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I started counseling but it’s not helping.
What are your next steps?: My husband has agreed to go to couples counseling. I’m not sure he’s stopped seeing her because she is still texting him. And he still keeps his phone on silent.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible
What emotions are missing from the list?: Hurt
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: At this time I don’t feel I have any advice that would help anyone
What else would you like to share?: The hardest part of this is how after all these years together he could do this to us and to me
We have been together since we were 16
I am devastated but I still love him.