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Your Age: 31-40

Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days

How did you learn about it?: I discovered text messages and a dating app on his phone

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I feel like I need to read everything he has ever sent to another woman and like I can never trust him again. Every time he gets a message I feel as if I need to check, every time he goes out I need to know where he is and I have this fear of finding out he is meeting up with someone during tge day when he is out working especially since he is a contractor worker and works at different customers during each day.

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I am struggling to sleep properly and I am not eating well

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I am reading articles on how to move forward but still have all these doubts in my mind

What are your next steps?: I think I need to see a psychologist to help me work through the betrayal and work on my marriage

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Afraid, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed

What emotions are missing from the list?: Devastated

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: I don't know yet

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