Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: He told me he cheated on me before we were married. Several times. With men.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I was distraught. I'm horrified. Lost.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: No.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I try not to think about it. I try to be strong for our daughter. I cry every day when no one is looking.
What are your next steps?: I don't know. He now tells me he is gay.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Disrespected
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Run like hell.
What else would you like to share?: I can't leave. I don't want to ruin my young daughter's life. I am too old to start over. I have no support and am too ashamed to tell anyone.