Title: Hollywood Could Not Have Even Written This Betrayal
Your Story: 28 year marriage. Two amazing daughters. Roll the clock back two years my wife lost her Mom. One year ago she lost her Dad. Things were rough. I had a difficult time connecting with her. She was drinking. She was angry. She had PTSD from extreme grieving. She limped home four times with a smashed car. All were alcohol related yet none involved police, injury or third party damage that I am aware of. She drank often and started hiding the bottles and cans of wine. About the time Covid began she started disappearing for a night or two a week at girlfriends places. She needed her space so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Soon things stopped adding up. She was not where she said she was. There was an Amazon package which she opened in front of me containing mens underwear. She said they were for me. She’d never bought me underwear even during the good times. The kids were suspicious of her whereabouts and started asking me if I believed her stories. I asked her if she was cheating and she always insisted no. I saw her driving a few times in opposite directions when I was going to work 25 miles from home. She had a story for all of them. I got a toll notice in the mail for a bridge she crossed 90 miles north of home. There were six others in the database paid by her. She was clearly lying and starting to crumble. I could not take it anymore so I pulled the phone records. An hour in it was obvious that she was talking to somebody 10 times a day for months. The area code was near Sacramento. I live in Monterey Bay. The times she said she was at friends houses her phone was making calls from the Sacramento area. One off numbers she called during those times were to cheap motels. I paid to identify the owner of the number she called and texted hundreds of times. It was a 24 year old kid. I called the number. He answered. I asked if he was screwing my wife. He said nothing and handed the phone off. My wife got on the line. Said she was having dinner with just a friend and she’d be back tomorrow. I hung up. She called me back three or four times to try to determine what I knew. He texted me to apologize that he is not a home wrecker, he thought our marriage was over, etc. The next day I pulled phone records within the hour. Her number was calling his but they were now both in my neighborhood. A one off number was to a cheap motel a mile from my house. I did a drive by that evening and as I pulled into the parking lot she was getting out of her car with a bag of groceries and flowers. He was getting out of the passenger side. I confronted them. My wife was stone cold shocked. I asked her why and he got in my face and ended up cold cocking me. I got in my car and backed out to the gas station across the street with a bloody lip. I called the cops who showed up immediately. As I explained the situation to the cops my wife and her lover pulled out of the motel parking lot. I told the cops that’s them. They gave chase but lost them. I drove home broken but had affirmative confirmation. A few days later my wife showed up at home with a girlfriend to get some belongings. The girlfriend was there because my wife claims I threatened her and her lover at the motel. A few days after that she told me she got an apartment and word on the street is that he shacked up with her. My kids have not spoken to her for a month. She called me recently crying. She was drunk. He came up on her during the call and blew a gasket when he found out my wife had me on the line. He even tried to kiss her while I was on the line. “I love kissing you”, he said. A couple days later she told me he is no longer in her life. She is still drinking. She is starting to break because she realizes that she betrayed our children and me in a huge way. I am waiting for her to hit rock bottom. I have been stoic, forgiving, kind and staying on the high road. She has called me, texted me and emailed me but yet to take responsibility. Her window to begin repair is drastically shrinking. She needs alcohol treatment. Her friends are telling her she that she has made a huge mistake. I and my girls have been absolutely betrayed by my wife of 28 years whom needs to get help soon or she will self destruct. I am done with this marriage and look forward to my life a year or two from now.