Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: In an angry outburst, he blurted out he had been having an affair
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I was crushed, then and now. I had a PTSD episode about w months ago and I've been stuck in a loop.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Going from not sleeping to sleeping 8-10 hours. Normal for me is 6-7 hours
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I recently had to start taking Lexapro, and seeing a counselor. I've only seen the counselor once so far.
What are your next steps?: Continue with therapist, see if I can get out of this loop. If not, I'm contemplating divorce.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Anger, Sadness, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Hurt
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Get counseling immediately. Do not think it will blow over.
What else would you like to share?: I agreed to not seek counseling when he came back home after leaving me for the affair partner. He went to see a counselor on his own, but insisted that it was his problem and he would deal with it. I needed help and counseling too, I didn't know how to deal it process wgstcaas going on.