Your Age: 21-30
Length of Relationship : 3 - 5 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: I kept finding text messages and facebook messages between the 2 of them. He would always deny it making me sound crazy. I would always tell him it's her or I and he would tell me he picked me. Finally I had enough yesterday when I found more messages about their relationship dating and break up. I finally messaged her asking about it. I also confronted him as well he denied denied denied until she started telling me everything and he finally started coming clean.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I'm lost. After we talked last night we joked and laughed about it but today I feel empty we are in the covid19 pandemic and I can't get away I can't run to a friends I'm stuck here in the house with him, my son and our pets
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I couldn't sleep last night I kept imagining them together.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I dont know yet I feel to lost and dont know where to begin. I want to make us work I still love him I just dont know.
What are your next steps?: I dont know yet I feel to lost and dont know where to begin. I want to make us work I still love him I just dont know.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Cornered/Forced
What emotions are missing from the list?: None
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: When you see red flags dont let them pass it off. These red flags are for a reason
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