Your Age: 21-30
Length of Relationship : 6 - 10 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: In the last few months - less than 90 days (3 months)
How did you learn about it?: On The 4th of April 2020 I received a Facebook Messenger from the wife of the man who had an telephone affair with my wife stating did I know my wife and her husband is chatting. So then I intervened and called her also the guy and my wife then admitted it was going on for 5 months.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I was torn apart, always trusted in my wife, never thought shed be the one cheating.
I have allot of hate and interest on what was said and shared over these chats it was quite intense.
she admitted what was done but still i have this interest on how and when what was said and shared.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Bad sleeping, always wondering why and will she do it again.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I am a Christian so I pray allot, no pills, or counselling, my wife and I decided to work it through so its not easy, but we both are open and honest about everything now.
What are your next steps?: we are working on our marriage, but I struggle with forgiving as stated I want to know what was said and done solid proof, but in the same taste it may heart me more if I do.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Afraid, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Hate
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Always look at 2 sides of a story , I was always working and she was busy with the kids, and we accepted life this way, never accept life that way make time.
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