Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A while ago - 6-12 months
How did you learn about it?: i saw an sms on her phone from a male colleague asking her to meet at the main gate as his daughter was leaving
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: i was devastated, even now, but i think i will recover,
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: i would not sleep at times, i would have to drink alcohol
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: i do walks, it helped because i got a job away from home so i could come only month end
What are your next steps?: i wrote a letter which i dont want her to read but as a way to let go.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Voiceless, Betrayed, Devalued, Relieved
What emotions are missing from the list?: n/a
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: pray and take decision immediately
What else would you like to share?: be cautious at all times, and engage and ask to see the phone, just dont believe because you trust