Title: betrayal from a spouse
Your Story: we were married for 9 years, and she changed jobs. when she was on a new job the first thing i experienced was during sex. I could feel that she definitely had sex with somebody before us, because i trusted her i just said it could not be, but i could not think further about it and it never crossed my mind. then i went away for a funeral, she called me at the funeral and my phone was off. i saw a missed call when i switched on my call, i wondered why the call. but i left it. she started receiving calls at home and she will not say who called. the other day i heard is a guy on the phone. i indicated to her that i dont expect other male friends or colleagues to invade our privacy, she says its just a collegue. i indicated that they already spend more time together at work and now even after hours. i told her to stop it. the other day she was on the call as i entered the bedroom and she dropped the call. i indicated that why does she end the call when i come in, reply was i was finished with the call. i said it creates a suspicion.it brought some tension. from that they i decided to be observant.. i noticed a perfume in her wardrobe but i kept quiet. I would as her to pick up the kids she will not agree and bring some excuses. oo the 16th of december she went for her overtime work. she forget one of her phones and sms came through to ask her that they should meet at the main gate as the daughter of this guy was just leaving. i never new the guy, she never talked about him. then now the call while i was at the funeral start making sense. what i suspected that she slept with somebody start making sense.i went through her phne i realised that the call she dropped when i went to the bedroom she was talkiing to the same guy. i could see that she also sent him an sms which was deleted. i could also see that the guy called her like 07h10 in the morning on her birthday.i could see that she just wanted to have fun because she just changed policies to make me a benefiery. it broke my heart , i started drinking more, but could not think of divorve at the time because of the children, we started drifting apart. i confronted her it was just defence mechanism all the way. she even shouted at me that i should bit her up. but i was calm, but it really destroyed our marriage.i wanted a divorce after 7 years, she agreed, but i was working far away. when i came back to finalize she said she does not want a divorce, we should work things out.becasue i was not ready for such a discusion, i just agreed. im working on it but is so painful for me. but i pray then i feel better. i hope to be fine one day.. when i go t the a dating side i feel better, though i dont do anything.i really dont know what will make me feel better. but i hope one day God will help win the battle. trust will take time to build