Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 6 - 10 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: Left my phone on recording and went to work just to check what's going on with my maid and my husband. They had a conversation about me, my husband told her he doesn't love me anymore, he is only staying for the kids. Came back from work, listened to the recording and confronted them.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Felt like my life just ended. Humiliated. Unloved. Devalued. Replaced. Disrespected.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Anger issues, insomnia, crying non stop, tired all the time, chest pains
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Therapy session was very short. I can't afford to continue. Drinking wine to numb my pain. Also focusing on myself and kids more.
What are your next steps?: We went tru divorce but we will reconcile because of financial issues on my side. I'm working on my exit strategy.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?:Suicidal
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: You don't have to stay
What else would you like to share?: I put on a brave face and no one knows I'm dying inside. Also being known as a strong person that went tru difficulties, you are expected to deal as per usual. Even the closest people I no longer can speak to them about this because they do not understand what happened to the person they knew to be so strong. I could be strong for so many things but not too strong to be broken down by the man I gave my life to.