submission forty-eight (48)

Your Age: 31-40

Length of Relationship : 21 years or more

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago

How did you learn about it?: I heard it on the telephone. He accidentally called me and i heard my husband at the time having sex with another female. I sat on the phone for 2 hours listening. I had to do everything to confirm it was what I was hearing. I put the phone on speaker, my ear phones on, to my ear! Yes, it was what I was hearing. When he was done, he noticed I was on the phone. I heard him get up and close a door behind him. On my life, I could swear I heard him crying cause he noticed I heard it all.

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: When I found out, I had so much anger inside of me. I wanted to kill him. If he had come home that night, I might have! Actually, I didn't see him for 3 weeks! But now, we are divorced. I had got into another relationship but even with this new relationship, I was betrayed!

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Yes, I have no motivation and I hate life!

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Nothing! I take it one day at a time.

What are your next steps?: Try to love again. Hopefully I can find a good man.

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Anger, Sadness, Alone, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed

What emotions are missing from the list?:Psychotic and trust issues

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: I do not wish this upon anyone. The hurt, betrayal, emotional and mental stress from is is very hard to recover from. All I can do is pray for others.

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